- You communicate well, even in tough times
- You trust your partner
- Your partner is there for you when you need them
- You feel safe, physically and emotionally
- Your partner makes time for you
- You enjoy each other's company, yet support time apart as well
- You can each finish a disagreement without shutting down or walking away
- You take time together to just be a couple
- You parent and discipline the kids well together
- You can discuss money challenges without fighting
- Your partner is excited for you when something goes right
- You feel understood and heard when something goes wrong
- You and your partner avoid contempt or unkind teasing
- You're not boiling with resentment
- You feel supported in your life dreams and goals
- Your intimate life is satisfying to both of you
- You feel safe enough to tell your partner about something tough in your past
- When you're upset, you want to turn toward your partner and know you'll feel supported
- When you have a tough conversation, each of you works hard to avoid defensiveness or criticism
- You have fun and play well together
CAN YOU ANSWER YES TO MOST OF THESE QUESTIONS?